Hey, I have been asking questions about my family, And now i am going to ask about my brother and sister! Since early childhood I protected and loved her, she is my only sibling. Ever since I was 6 my dad wanted me to be a surfer and to play soccer and the same with my mom. So I decided to do it. She has even gone as far as to poison the minds of her 2 children to disregard me and treats me like I'm not family. I break down the walls, quit all the negative habits and tried to re-connect a repair my relationship with my sisters and father, and it worked. We NEVER get along. i talked about it with my sister … Jack. My mother and sister had gone to my job when I was 34 and cost me my job by disparaging me to the supervisor and co workers. I also hate myself fo hating my family and it makes me feel like a bad person cause my mom does so much for me, She pays for everything I have and takes me to do fun things, so I just feel like a terrible person for hating her after what she has done for me It's easy to do. 7 years ago. Just because we are family, doesn’t me we have to get along. It hurts to have someone you love treat you like this and its hard to accept that they really have no control over it. I come from a family where everyone makes over 100,000 a year and they think of people by how much money they make. my fiancée suggested getting her custody , i don't know if a sibling can , i own a house with 2 extra rooms for my sister and can provide for her financially more than the average person . My older sister has hated me since I was four or five. I am a 26 year old male and my sister and I are 8 years apart. Even before then her behavior was still the same. My parents are sometimes helpful or at least trying to be, but half of the time they are either telling me to grow up and stop be a baby or they're siding with her. Nothing major happened between us. I could never understand why.... She is 12 years my senior, learnt to drive before me, moved out before me, started working and earning her own salary, got married to an awesome man, has travelled the world, seen places I have only dreamt of. She used to like being with me and taking me everywhere with her. It happened when I finally stood up to her and would not do her bidding as I usually do. I'm the youngest of my sisters and I have alsways got into fights with my oldest sister, both my sister came to live with my family when I was 4 they were 13. But she would blame me for things I hadn't done. We who have had our siblings shun us need to have a support group so that we can talk, share, bond, become friends. She I always thought I was the spoiled one and I always thought she was a bully. My Sister is 4 1/2 years older than myself. So, instead of only thinking about that one sentence “My husband hates me,” sit down and tell him how you really feel right now, and be prepared to accept his reply, even if it hurts to hear it. My older sister hates me so much and I really don't know why. My father was the alcoholic and he targeted me with aggression from my earliest childhood memories into adulthood. I am 15 and she is 17. My sister does not want her children to have contact with me either. Anything I say she "pooh-pooh's" with sarcasm and disdain. As she gets older she gets crueler if that's even possible. She has had so many stunning opportunities in life that I never have had, yet my mothers beliefs have unveiled. She did not even tell my parents that I was coming home. We had our ups and downs. I always ask her why she hates me but she just says "You're annoying." I love my sister I couldn't live without her. etc. So, this may sound like a typical sister thing but it hurts. I suspected my moms feelings over the years, and now after the truth has been revealed, it hurts like crazy, she feels like an enemy, so cold and distant... so very sad.... My sister is 9 years older than me and now lives a stressful life in her apartment. my brother try's to make my life a living hell. She would tell me, a 12 year old, that I was nothing, a mistake, and a nuisance to our parents. Still, to this day she hates me and my other full sister and I are no longer close as children. she always supports my sister and scolds me in front of her to show her that she could screw me too. The weird thing is my other sister is with one of his friends too. (Sometimes this well happen in life.) We've never been on the same page with anything. I’m not sure entirely why — if there’s a reason, neither my mother-in-law nor husband will admit to knowing it. He met a woman BEHIND MY BACK, yes, we were separated..but he kept this secret..She had kids. My brain knew better; it's why loving a married man hurts the other woman. I'm 9, about to turn 10, and my sister is 12, about to turn 13. I was forced repeatedly pack my stuff and go to a little hiding area right next to the highway, waiting for my mom to get back. He hates and resents me but is unable to articulate why. She hits me and my dad calls calls it a playful joke. His parents kind of like me and get along quite well with me. I am a girl of 15, she is 16. 3 Answers. I became homeless and had not place to go. It crushed me. But since my mother had passed away in 2003, I started to change for the better. However, she always has this face that tells me she is irritated by me, and she seems to refuse my affection. My bf is my sisters bf's best friend. My wife, I love her, but she doesn’t even like me touching her. We've been married for a year, both 30 and trying for a baby. DEAR DEIDRE: MY older sister hates me but I can’t escape from her. I noticed that a certain part of the sky cleared and the sun started to shine on me. She bullies my whole family. I see the hatred in her eyes. My mom has these mood swings all the time. When I cry, she calls me a drama queen. I'm 6 years older. They went to every merchant in town and disparaged me. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. I wish to just forget her in my life. Viewing 4 posts - 1 through 4 (of 4 total) Author Posts July 13, 2015 at 8:23 am #79749 Beckster5Participant Hello everybody, I have been reading Tiny Buddha for a long time and just today discovered there are forums. I recently went through bs with my fam. I have an extremely racist family. I was taken back and i started to ask God for his help. It scares me so much I can't even walk by her without thinking she will just stab me and that will be the end. No reason that I can think of. Told me she felt nothing and had no issues with it. Immigrated, raised 2 gorgeous kids. By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. I'd been slaving over for her and she never thanks me for my deeds. I was the only one who had a close bond with our brother. My sister and I am were very close, 5 years apart. You may feel as if you're defending yourself but to her, it's about you not caring what she thinks and possibly even about putting her down. Write again. You never will, because she will not let you. She can be calm one minute and bitter and angry the next for no apparent reason and every time she becomes bitter it's always something negative towards me. when i ask her to visit a therapist she hits me and tells me to go die. Calling the police will not do much. I really prayed from my heart and felt this feeling like i was actually being listened to. My sister comments on every single one of my life choices and it's usually to tell me how it's wrong. When the coast was clear, one of them might console me. I'm gone on contracts to the middle east 2 months at a time and when I get home, we have sex once... then I'm begging the entire time I'm home. Hi, I am 23 and I have a 19 year old sister who hates me. But I'd been cleaning all day. She stops by MacDonalds and orders her food in the drive through. I'm the middle child in my family. Anyways I have never been able to rely on my mom to ever go back home. Went no contact and honestly happiest I have been in years. I thought my sister would be kind enough to put them away as it was late and I still had more homework. “The Lord is my strength and my song,” Exodus 15:2 reminds. I am 5'5 and weight 118 she is 5'1 and weights 150 She's over weight and over powers me. If you have question to ask, a story to tell, or a statement to make about family feel free to post. I was thrown out at 18 and thats fine. Of course I'd try my best to help her out. She then pulled my hair back and whispered in my ear, "I hope you die. She's toxic, remove her, you won't regret it. I have a younger sister who is 9 years younger than me. But all she did was use me as her stress relief. I grew up idolizing her because se was the oldest. She used to say that because I liked the same song as her I was copying her and that I couldn't get my hair straight for some reason cause she did it. The worst part is I can't avoid her because we live in the same room. My sister is always calling me names and telling me everyone wants me dead. She made some bad choices in men, had a few bad friends and had a baby at 16. She has misplaced these pictures and now accuses me of going into her apartment and taking them. My parents aren't listening. Older sister tells mom nasty things about me, mostly negative to wedge a distance between my relationship with mom. I'm 16 and I have two siblings. Pearl. Im 14, my sister is 18 turning 19 very soon. They are old pictures of family members that I have absolutely no interest in. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. Not everything is black and white and you could both be to blame for your marriage falling apart. My mother hates me today and I've pleaded with her to please love me and she professes to be a christian. Ok so yesterday before I sleep I told her that I love her she said that she hates me she wasn't joking it hurts my feelings and she was making fun of me I want to test her if she likes me or not any ideas and thanks. Home→Forums→Relationships→sister hates me New Reply This topic has 3 replies, 3 voices, and was last updated 5 years, 1 month ago by niki. Why don't you ask her? It took repeated tries all these years. We all have different views and opinions this is just a place to share the ones we have on family. Just because she's older than me doesn't mean shes the best at everything. My very oldest sister isn't always nice but at least she's nicer that the OTHER one. My sister is some 4 years older than me. Im sorry you are going through this with your sister, my sister does the same thing and she was also diagnosed with mental dissabilities. My husband rang me and checked in on me. It doesn’t sound like you meant to hurt any of them with what you said, so that helps me. She tells her friends and our family things about me that are not true. She’s overweight, and I’m not, and it kills her. Like I have soo much love & respect for her. She eats on the way and I ask if I can have a fry and she says that I'm a beggar and no I couldn't. Something happened yesterday that i feel compelled to share with everyone. She's totally different. My older sister hates me. We are almost 2 years apart and throughout my whole life she has controlled me. My older sister hates me also, and this has been going on since we were children. It's amazing how sisters can be so different. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Answer Save. She needs to realize that I'm her only sister so she needs to get her head out of her butt and take a hint. How we handle other people's character defects is what makes the difference in relationships, in my opinion. I mean, she is ruining the family over it. It's easy to do. My mother for some strange reason told me a few times whilst growing up that my sister hated me, that she was jealous of me. I posted previously about my sister hating me. The letter you always wanted to write ‘You broke my heart. I loved surfing and soccer but … I had to move. His sister's always needing money. I just know that it is wrong and makes me feel horrible when I am around them. I know. She yells at me and says hurtful things all the time. She wouldn’t be my type of person but I’m able to make an effort with people I don’t like very much. About two or three years ago she stopped calling me (I lived out of state). I still have text messages from her on my phone with the meanest and most hateful messages imaginable. There is a 6 year difference and my bf is my sisters age. She's 8 months pregnant and so she ALWAYS uses the whole I'm emotional so don't upset me excuse, and of course my parents get mad at me because shes pregnant and she "can't help it". 5 hours ago. She has called me cold blooded, "evil, liar, needy, wants to be the center of attention, the worst person she knows, thief, etc. I left soon after feeling deeply depressed but at the same time felt some strange comfort. Simply click here to return to Need Personal Growth Advice?. People say she’s jealous and bitter. Q. “I feel like my sister hates me because I’m prettier than her. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Just because she is my sister, doesn’t me I am obliged to accept her into my … A letter to … my sister, who shut me out for no reason. I was kind so I did. When she quit working ,without telling me anything she and her than boyfriend put me on a bus one way to AZ with only 17 dollars and sent me away. My sister is 16 and I am turning 15 soon. She then cried out so I stopped and let her go. My bird likes my sister more than me, and it hurts tbh. Hope to see you there. Perhaps its helpful to know that none of us are alone. During my teenage years, I had got into trouble with my parents. We are all three years apart. Well, me and my sister are 5 years apart. Post about anything related to family! They may take a report but there will be little or no follow-up. Hello, i am the 57 year old who recently wrote about his sister and niece that have disdain for him. We are only 4 years apart, I love her when shes not fighting with me but I feel like she doesn't want me or doesn't want to protect me ... xx. They think hes black, muslim, a terrorist, going to sell me into prostituion and slavery, well the list goes on. She was bffs with my other older sister. In the four years I have moved out she has not sent me a text, a Facebook message, a phone call -- nothing. Close • Posted by 2 minutes ago. My older sister is sort of my friend but not all the way and I`ll tell you why. He knew that it was extremely painful for me and he used it as a tool to torture me. Press J to jump to the feed. My sister hates my husband. But , oh my goodness, My 2nd oldest sister is so rude to me. I know how u feel my sister is the same way I am 12 she 14 two years apart people always say we will grow up and end up liking each other but I wish I just know she'll hate me when I get older the worst part is we share the same room. Hi everyone, I have read many topics on here and thought maybe someone can give me a good advice. We had different fathers. It was already around 10:30 when I was still doing my homework when my mum came home. I don't have children btw. I too have a sister who has no use for me. Simply click here to return to. My oldest sister my relationship with her IS GREAT , we have the typical relationship. As a little girl I know I did things to her out of jealousy. I don't think I can cope anymore, I do feel better knowing I'm not alone in this whole situation, though. I am a 57 year old male and also have a sister who despises me. I seem to have a double whammy from both my sister and mother. I'm glad that I am not the only one that is going through this situation. I'm 62 years old and finally learned that any attempts at trying to make my sister like me were futile. When she would cook dinner, she would only tell my bros to eat, not me, i had to cook my own food, as well as buy my own groceries, and soap..etc..which my bros didnt. None of us are perfect and we all do things that annoy others no matter how our egos tell us differently. They care a lot more about her then me. Which of course gets Crazy Catholic mother asking me if I pray and telling me how evil I am because I don't have a relationship with God. I constantly preach about how all troubles in relationships stem from BOTH people involved. I'm so grateful you wrote this blog. my mom talks about me behind my back to my brothers all the time. My sister used to love hanging out with me, and she used to love me very much. ... yet my sister informed me that she was taking off a day “only” on Thursday. My sister and I have never gotten along well. Then she began to accuse me of "stealing" her family photos. I googled "older sister hates me" and am glad I came across this site. Well, you can not be mistaken when your older sister (7 years) tells you," I hate you and I have always hated you." I feel the important issue here is the relationship you have with your daughter. Cookies help us deliver our Services. I've always been a rebellious person did things I shouldn't but that's who I am. My older sister is a religious zealot, she has always had a problem with me, I graduated from college, she didn't. You may want to file a complaint of abuse in your household (by your older sister) with the Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS). We have nearly had to call the police because of her, though we haven't yet. She really gets on my nerves sometimes, for example, calling me names, always trying to annoy me, etc. Today I was nice to her as to clean everything she was supposed to. I understand completely. The only thing she cares about is reading. My sister always makes fun of me calls me names and calls me fat I want to keep eating but I always get criticized how do I stop it someone please help! She's constantly saying things to me like I don't want my daughter ending up like you as a teenager. I am not sure what I have done to make her hate me so much. Her friends have made fun of me & she never took up for me. As god is my witness I have not stolen anything from her. We have the same mother and different fathers, which all of them have passed on. My mother was on her own, as my dad died, and did little to protect me. I am 24 and my sister is 18. She is all nice and sweet one time and suddenly starts screwing me for things i didnt do. I really don't know how to cope anymore, I mean, my parents are separating now so I am left alone with her more often. Why? Also, if you haven't already, remember to join our discord server! Oh my gosh! I always thought my mother loved my sister more. I have been a model uncle and a loving brother but the facts remain the same. But she came out to me first (outher than her friends). I just want you to know you really are not alone in this. I had to tell them that their mother was going to pass. I have friends and a spouse who love me dearly. An older sister (17) and a younger brother(12). I understand she needs her privacy but I just want her to know that I'm part of her life to and even though she still will probably hate my guts when I'm 30 and she 32 doesn't mean that I still won't love her. I don’t miss you any more; you have hurt me too much.’ Julie has always been difficult, but after our dad left five years ago, she started skipping school and getting underage piercings without permission. MY SISTER HATES ME!Really hope you guys enjoyed this video of my sister & I! Please read their past posts before posting here! So I wrote this for them, to let them know she will … I cried too but my mum thought my older sis was innocent and that I'm some devil child. I'm going to be 61 and just realized that I have been beating a dead horse trying to get her to like me for all these years. She brought a bit of groceries. Join in and write your own page! I spend holidays alone, I have no other family. Right after our brother passed away almost 2 year ago, my sisters turned their back on me. If this post is compliant with our guidelines, upvote this comment. Lv 7. My sister in law hates me, please help (74 Posts) Add message | Report. Ok first off I'm 3 years apart from my sister. She has issues but we were close - I loved her and always stood by her. I was a feeling like i never felt before. I can't take it any more because my whole family is ALWAYS on her side and I never start any of the fights. 7 signs you are dealing with a sister in law who hates you :( I need help. Answer Save. Help out: There is a 15-year gap between my sister and me. anonymous December 24th, 2020 . Now, after forty years, I get it too. She is all alone and only has her daughter. When I use to live with her, she only made me pay rent and other expenses, as my brothers didnt have to. He’s picked me up off the floor multiple times after episodes with this particular sister. She said she doesn't like me and then lied and said she didn't say it. I am 70 and my sister is 71 years old. I thought she loved me. One day about 6 months ago when I was in the hospital for a serious illness I called my sister to tell her (she lives 1000 miles away). He and his elder sister left for the office. I don't fight back because I don't want to hurt her.. in not that person. Told people years ago I had been raped when I hadn't. There have been words exchanged on their part that I do not feel comfortable repeating here because I found them to be seething with venom shocking and hateful. My mom is raising my 3 oldest children. I'm 18 and my sister is 28. We were close all of our lives like twins. I talked to her and my mom about it but she still won't stop. I should call it "hate" but I try and stay away from that word. She has control of my mother who has alzheimers. If you can say yes, then nothing your sister tells her should make her turn against you because she has heard everything, and exactly how it happened from you. Ever since I was 6 my dad wanted me to be a surfer and to play soccer and the same with my mom. my parents like my sibling more than me and it hurts. To me, they were family. It's been the same for me. Before, we did everything you imagine together, she was basically my best friend, but I don't know if it is the teenage stage or something but at 16 she started to go silent on me. During my teenage years, I had got into trouble with my parents. Not working, Putting his family first. So, this past year she cut all her hair off, dyed it black, got three face peicing, a huge tattoo. Alison . When she's drinking she will tell me that she has always been jealous of me. When I was 14 I baby sit for her in Ca. She hated me being around. But now my ex who they’re best friends with and who hates me. My parents are on her side and hates me. I only have a mom and sister on my side of the family and have always treasured my husbands family. I had barely anytime for homework. I try to ignore her but it isn't enough. She cusses at me and I'm starting to shake with fear when she just walks near me in a bad mood. when i was younger my dad used to hit me quite often and i remember flinching a lot whenever someone would raise an arm in front of me because of it. I can sympathize totally with you. DEAR CAROLYN: My husband’s sister hasn’t liked me since the day we met. 6 hours ago. I am 58 years old now, and she is 61. She chased me upstairs and started to beat me. I sometimes wish suicide was an easier path to try. Now all hate me for just wanting a break for the day. I have tried and tried to have the relationship … In this blog, we will identify signs which will help you understand if you are dealing with a sister in law who hates you, and then we will move ahead and find ways to deal with one. My sister doesn't care if my mom witnesses her actions and if my mom tries to protect me she harms her too. Parents and twin sister do not like my boyfriend of 2 years from Poland. She used to be really nice and caring to me but now she hates my guts and wants me dead. 0 0. D: help. I am 61 and she is 68. My older sister always would hurt me either mentally or physically. Look I don't understand, I'm only 17 and I spent 11 years without my sister Then I found her on Facebook. She has tried to murder me multiple times, once by almost drowning me, stabbing me, suffocating me, etc. My mother loves bragging about me to her friends and co-workers (I’m 20 and running a sweet little part-time business that pays for my university degree) but when the time comes for me to ask her questions about business, or go to the next step… she always stops me and tells me that I’m fine where I am, why grow when I’m good here, etc. She is always making up lies and getting me in trouble, punished, and loss of privileges. She even had a lawyer send me a letter accusing me of "stealing" a hundred photos from her apartment. I am an adult, but she thinks i can do better than him because he is a truck driver. I loved surfing and soccer but was and still am not very good at it. Quick recap: when I was young I wanted to be around my sister and she was annoyed by me. 0 0. I have a sister who is one year older than me. She is 20 now and I'm just 15, but before all things went bad at when I was 11 and she was 16. I'm the youngest. I think she has always wished she was an only child. I went to church tonight and my parents asked her to drive me and stop by and get dinner on the way. my sister hates me it hurts NEW by: Shenanigans I have a younger sister who is 9 years younger than me. ask god to help you with that. 7 hours ago. Oh course, me being me, I ignored it because I thought it was ok. Later she wanted me to do more chores for her. For a period of time we bred parrotlets. She blasted her music through the paper thin walls, and of course this got me agitated. They all hate me, wont talk to me. About 6 months after we started dating (I was 20 and my sister was 16) my sister started to be really mean to my boyfriend. It only made me think about how can a woman hate another woman for no specific reason? my family hates my I got called a fatty, fatby my mom and sister. Kelly D., my sister in law told me I wasn’t part of their real family because I wasn’t a blood relative. She is about 5 years older than me, and she was jealous of my baptism, and stole my cake, and party, then, she also did not let me have anything, to play with, she never helped me with anything, not my school work, or anything, she got me in trouble, and made me do bad things, and keep secrets from our parents, and then, she tried to control me, and not let me have any fun!